The Monitor’s Advice Column
My mom seems to hate everything about me. She hates what I’m into, how I act, and she even hates my shyness. It can sometimes get very overwhelming. How can I get my mom to accept me for me?
Answered by LeeAnn B.
Hi there! Looks like you’re in a bit of a predicament here – hopefully I can help!
First of all, just be you. Don’t try to be like someone else or act differently just to be accepted. Be happy because you are who you are, and keep your chin up.
Try sitting down with your mom sometime and just have a friendly conversation. Tell her your feelings. I’m sure she doesn’t hate you! Maybe she doesn’t even realize you feel this way, or that she’s being far too harsh on you. You might be surprised by what she says! However, don’t go off on a rant – calmly talk to her. Getting her angry won’t get you anywhere.
Perhaps you can go for a walk in a park or do another activity with your mother that you both will enjoy. Some bonding time with her might just do the trick.
“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire
Overall, I think there’s just a bit of misunderstanding between you and your mother. Simply talking to someone can work wonders, I’m sure it will work for you!
Smile, you’re you and that’s all you need to be.
I have been trying to get into a dual-enrollment. But no matter how hard I studied and how hard I tried, I just could not pass the compass exam for the pre-med program. I got into the CNA program. Do you think that I should do the CNA (Certified Nursing Assistance) program so that the eight+ years I am in medical school I could have a job other than working at McDonalds?
Answered by Mika C.
First, I would like to say that it is great you are looking and thinking about your future like this! It’s better to start early and know your options, than to start later and get stuck with something you would rather not do.
Now, I think you need to answer the following for yourself:
1) Will I have time to be working as a nursing assistant while going through medical school? Would I rather work at personal homes? How about nursing homes? What about hospitals? Or adult day care centers?
2) Which of these options do I want? Which would be the easiest to do while going to school?
3) What are my accommodations going to be like while I’m in medical school? Will I be paying rent? Will I have roommates? Will I be living with my parents?
4) What will be my means of transportation? Will I be paying for a bus pass? Will I be paying for my own car with gas and maintenance?
5) How much does the tuition for medical school cost? How much do books cost?
Once you have answered these questions, you can start to make your decision. Keep in mind that while you are in medical school, you will need time to study as well as time to just care for yourself.
Also, remember that being a nursing assistant has different options: hospital work, personal homes, nursing homes, and more. Know that each option will have its benefits, as well as its drawbacks. If you decide to do something like this, then hospital work or nursing homes may be the best choice as you will have more set work hours.
Overall, I think the benefits of becoming a CNA are great and I would go with it. But, ultimately, it is up to you to decide. I hope this helps you decide what you want to do, and I wish you the best of luck on your journey!