Finding Yourself While Adjusting to a New Way of Learning
By: Nina R.
“People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates.”
“The only journey is the journey within.”
-Rainer Maria Rilke
Feeling lost is only the beginning of the great journey that is finding yourself. You only start to recognize your true thoughts and feelings when you have this time to yourself. First off, accepting that you feel this way is the first step to finding yourself.
If it’s your first year at Connections, this article is for you. There is no doubt about it. Online school can be a serious uphill battle when it comes to making friends, and staying socialized. It can be quite fatiguing adjusting to a whole different measure of learning. It’s understandable if you lose yourself in the process. Most people would associate finding yourself by acquiring a new hobby, which is a great mechanism, but in order to truly give yourself a new definition, you must dig under the surface. The first step to adjusting is thinking about this: compare your habits from brick and mortar schools to your habits at online schools. Are there some unnecessary habits you might still be holding onto? The second step in “digging deep” is to evaluate your values. Are there some unnecessary things you have been holding onto under this category as well? Are there some positive values you might want to include in your “new” mindset?
Having a sense of self-worth is an important factor in finding yourself. This can be an extremely treacherous thing as a teenager, but it IS possible. Research some ways that you can get a sense of self-worth, because you will use this to organize yourself so that you can comfortably rely on yourself. Relying on yourself is the base of knowing yourself. Relying on yourself is a solid value to have when you do online school, because you earn a copious amount of independence, and often are given no choice but to rely on yourself.
The last step that is essential to finding yourself is confiding in your peers. I know you probably hear this endlessly but join a club! I never took this advice before, but once I did I learned immediately that clubs aren’t merely a club when it can end up feeling like a family. Once you have your new, organized mindset, and someone to talk to at the end of the day when you’re feeling stressed, it could be time to seek out a leisure activity (hobby). Whether it’s an art, or a sport, this can sincerely help you in the long run. Hobbies are there for you when you need something to cope with the stress of your everyday life. When you find a hobby, take in the positive feelings it gives you, and keep them stored in your heart for when you feel down.
Though this journey of finding yourself will be an undoubtedly difficult movement, it is completely worth it. Many say that you are never definitely done with finding yourself, but this can be a good thing. There is no such thing as a rush to find yourself. Take this into consideration, and remember that you are never alone.