Strengthening Your Child’s Resolve: How to Achieve New Year’s…
Nothing inspires motivation and change like the New Year. For virtual school students, it’s a great time to set a new goal or work on a skill.
But sticking to a New Year’s resolution isn’t easy, especially when we choose a goal that feels overwhelming. Even if the resolution seems achievable, many people have trouble following it for more than a couple of months. In other words, we struggle with our resolutions because we lack resolve.
What a “Resolution” Really Is
A New Year’s resolution doesn’t have to be a goal. A “resolution” can be the:
- Answer to a problem
- End of a conflict
- Simplification of a complex idea
- Determination to act a certain way
- Ability to maintain a positive attitude
Reaching a resolution isn’t easy, so your child needs strong conviction to do it successfully. Instead of reminding your child how to achieve New Year’s resolutions this year, focus on strengthening his or her resolve to help him or her achieve resolutions all year long.
Here are some of the ways your child can lack resolve, along with some tips for addressing the issue.
- I can’t find the answer to a problem. If your child doesn’t have the perseverance to find answers to difficult questions, then it’s too early to set big goals for the New Year. Problem solving is one of the fundamental skills your child needs to succeed in school, and it’s something he or she needs to work on every year.Before your child makes any New Year’s resolutions, help him or her revisit basic study skills. These include research, time management, note taking, initiative, effort, and more.
- I don’t understand this concept. Part of knowing how to find the right answer or figure out a difficult concept is recognizing when it’s time to reach out for help. Your child should also know from whom to seek help.
You, the parent or Learning Coach, are the first person your child should go to, so make yourself available during the school day. If your child needs additional help, make sure he or she isn’t afraid to call the teacher.
- I have trouble resolving arguments. Whether your child argues with you, fights with friends and siblings, or deals with bullies, he or she needs to know how to resolve conflict. That means building conflict resolution skills. Understanding how to settle differences is a crucial part of effective communication and collaboration.
- I don’t feel motivated. Maintaining motivation can be a challenge during the winter months when the holidays are over and the weather is bleak. That means that it’s a great time for Learning Coaches to summon their creativity to help their child beat the winter blues. If it’s more than the blues keeping your child down, identify the problem and find the motivation solution, whether it’s a recurring issue or a passing feeling.
- I’m not sure how to achieve my goals. To achieve goals, your child needs motivation. Try the 9-step motivation model, which builds your child’s intrinsic motivation by showing him or her how to set goals, identify solutions, and take the right steps to achieve those goals. This process can help your child become a determined and self-sufficient learner.
- I have trouble staying positive. Most of us break our resolutions when we’re feeling down, frustrated, or overwhelmed. But since this happens to everyone, all that matters is being able to overcome a negative attitude.Encourage your child to prepare for a great new semester by creating a positive learning environment in the virtual classroom. You can also demonstrate how to use exercise and use fun crafts or learning activities to boost his or her mood.
What else keeps your child from achieving New Year’s resolutions? Let us know how we can help.