I Am Not Socially Awkward

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33 Responses

  1. Anne Kerr says:

    BRAVO!!!!  and thank you!!

  2. Bryson M. says:

    Well, said!!  This is awesome, it is about time non homeschooling people understand the way we roll!! LOL

  3. Amy Walker says:

    Very well written and an excellent point of view. I agree and find it humorous that the people asking the social awkward question are actually the ones exercising social awkwardness. Thanks for sharing this!

  4. Lisa says:

    I’m so proud of you for writing this blog. As a mom, I always here this. (What about socialization!) It needs to be addressed and more people need to be educated! All three of my children attend CCA and they are involved in gymnastics, sports and my older daughter who is 14yrs old is working at a Water Ice place. She loves working and serving the public. They have done acting classes,etc. So, thanks again for writing this blog.  

  5. Laraine Unik says:

    Well written!  Thank you for sharing your story!

  6. Debbie Childers says:

    AMEN! Well Said!

  7. Carole Parry says:

    All of the great information assures me that the choice to begin homeschooling my granddaughter next school year is the perfect choice. Well said!!

  8. Jamie says:

    I myself am extremely socially awkward with most people my own age, but that’s not the fault of online schooling. I was already like that. Now instead of being forced to interact with a bunch of immature high schoolers every day at a school, I can socialize with a much better variety of people that I love talking to! Different ages, different experiences, and so much to offer! And it’s not as if I never leave the house…

  9. Jenny says:

    Im a concerned Mom who doesn’t know for sure if this is the right way to teach. HELP!!!

  10. ashley says:

    but what if you don’t want to go to an online school but is being forced by your parents?

  11. Jane says:

    Thank you for this! The socialization factor regarding homeschoolers is just one of those myths out there that hasn’t been “busted” yet!

  12. Delanie Ross says:

    Ashley I understand how you feel. It wasn’t my decision to go to an online school, it was my parents. It took me some time to get used to it. I kept looking at the things I wasn’t going to have anymore. I didn’t know what an online school was going to be like. What helped me was to open my mind to the new things that an online school gave me. There have been a lot more clubs for me with my online school then I would have had at my local school, like the newspaper. I also get to do more things outside of school like volunteering in my community. My brother liked working part-time while he was in school. Look at clubs you have wanted to join, places you would like to volunteer, part-time jobs you would like to do, and hobbies you’d like to try. Be really open-minded because this school gives you a chance to do just about anything. Don’t lose touch with friends from your other school. Set up times to hang out after school because you won’t have to worry about homework (but they might)! I really hope you enjoy this new experience. If something isn’t working, tell your parents and your teachers. Online schools are designed to fit you. Try not to be bitter or frustrated about your parent’s choice, it will take some getting used to, but you might be surprised by how much you like this new direction!

  13. Hi Jenny ~ The way you started your comment (stating that you’re a concerned mom) already shows you are on the right track to making the right choice for your family. There are so many things I want to share with you, but the first is to take some time and focus on the big picture. Your question reminds me of something I shared in another blog post here,4 Keys to Being a Great Learning Coach. One of the most important things you can do to be successful, is to know where you are trying to go. Take some time to write down the reasons why you are looking at an online school option and use these as a guide for your decision making process. If you can clearly see that the match of using an online school will help you lead your children where you want them to go in life, then it’s a good match. Use every tool that the school provides you, such as teacher support, technical support and community support. Ask lots and lots of questions! Then, remain firm in the direction you’ve chosen in order to accomplish what is important for your family. I can tell from your comment that you will always look for the right path for your family.

  14. Christine says:

    Wow thank you for this blog. I have struggling with the decision to homeschool my middle school girls and this was so helpful. Many people have discouraged me from doing so and now we are in a nasty situation where the girls are “falling behind” in school and the bullying in our school is quite disgusting. Thank you for opening my eyes and helping me make this decision for my family.

  15. Kayren Babcock says:

    Thank you for your perspective on homeschooling.  As a child of a missionary, I didn’t know any different.  My mom was my teacher : )  We ordered our books, used them (with the manual that came with them) and then got to tear up the manual at the end of the year.  (We used Calvert many many many moons ago) What I remember loving is the fact that our afternoons were free to play, create, imagine.  We had no TV, but never had a problem finding things to do.  I wish I had that for my kids.  Once we came back to the US, we were enrolled in a brick and mortar type school… it was a Christian school but that didn’t mean that the “mean students”, and the division wasn’t there.  It was and it is heartbreaking to think of my kids having to deal with that same thing.  I have a child with special needs that I have thought about homeschooling.  He is a bit socially awkward in that he doesn’t always pick up on social clues and is very artistically inclined instead.  Smart kid for sure but doesn’t function on the same level as others.  I want him to find his niche of friends in his own way via art camps, working, volunteering etc… I will make sure that he reads this as we try and decide the best course of action for his education!

  16. Danielle Rowley says:

    I have gotten that same question about my 3 children from almost every person I come in contact with who does not see us on a regular basis. Even family members lol. I feel my children appreciate their social time much more than many children. There is no fighting with other kids and no drama for my teen daughter. What an inspiring story!!!

  17. Scott Stroz says:


    I have bookmarked this page and anytime I am asked the ‘socialization’ question, I will ask people to read this and then get back to me.

  18. Forgive me if I speak as an older person to a much younger person, but since that is in fact the reality here… here goes:

    Well said, young lady!

    This year I would attend my 20th high school reunion — had I gone to a traditional high school. As it is, I can have such a reunion with no more effort than looking in the mirror. I was home-schooled starting in 1985, just after the State of Minnesota changed the education laws to make home-schooling legal. Before that, unless you lived in a very liberal district, parents would very likely end up being taken to court for no reason other than trying to educate their children in the way they believed to be best.

    Some even ended up facing fines and even jail time!

    As a result of the effort of thousands of Minnesotan home-school families signing petitions and taking their arguments to the court system throughout the 1970s and 1980s, home education in Minnesota is now treated as an extension of the public education system. For about the last 20 years, Minnesota home-schoolers have been able to enjoy the full benefit of public education’s extra-curricular activities like sports, driver’s education, band, debate, etc. They are even able take advantage of particular classroom experiences for subjects that are hard for home-schoolers to produce, like chemistry.

    It’s amazing to me to be able to compare my home education experience, when there were few resources available and “the system” was stacked against us, with that of someone who’s had the benefit of the foundations we laid 20 or more years ago. So much has changed, and almost all of it for the better. There are so many more options now, and so many more resources. The benefits that have been provided to you and others since then validates everything we went through way back then.

    But one thing has not changed. Not a bit. Not in almost 30 years. The first question anyone asked in the ’80s and the ’90s (I was class of ’91) was… you guessed it:

    What about socialization?

    So for 26 years I’ve been answering that question, and now I get to answer it regarding my daughter’s education. She’s three, and we (of course) plan on home-schooling. And every time it comes up, 90% of people’s first reaction is to ask some variation of that question. It can get maddening, but it’s always critical to be a good ambassador for alternative education.

    Your post here is excellent, and it echos what I’ve been telling people for almost three decades now. (Yeah, that makes me feel really old.)

    In any case: Well said, and thank you for sharing your perspective. I will be pointing people to this post as a response to that age-old (and incredibly aggravating) question.

    Have a great weekend!

  19. Jerri Bradshaw says:

    I completely agree, homeschoolers are able to get communication skills even more than those in the brick and mortar. The schedule is so convertible it makes it easier without the pressure of time cuts. Inside the school you might get a 30 min. chance to socialize. Homeschoolers can make that time longer when ever its convenient . The best decision we could have ever made.

  20. Sonya Pascone says:

    I agree with this 100 percent with this article because my son is socially awkward. I placed him in CCA in middle year this year and I saw him do wonderful things with his education and his was successful this year. My son is 14 years old and he has Asperger Syndrome. He could not understand the other children when he was in public school because he was being bully for his problems and he could not handle it. He started at CCA in the middle of year. He’s much happier with this school because everybody was so nice to him and his entire teachers and staff had understood him and his problems. “Before I had placed him at CCA, I had heard its going be worthless decision you could ever do for him”, from a lot of people. Well, they were all wrong because It was the Best Decision I could ever do for my son when comes to child with social problems. I’m very proud of my son because he did real hard work this year. I think he’s going to coming out with B and C average in all his classes. Next Year he will be going back to CCA. Thanks to CCA Staff and teachers for a wonderful year with you guys and my son.

  21. Ty-Rhoanda ( MICA parent of 3 currently enrolled ) says:

    Well said! I have children enrolled in MICA in grades 4th and 2nd. This will be their 2nd year outside of a brick and mortar school. I chose this option because of our failing school system and the bulling that my children got from students and even the staff….. Yes the staff! I was a couple of weeks late in enrolling my children in school due to a new move and they didn’t even want to accept them. The principal whispered to a office worker “I hope that they are teachable…” My children’s grades were C’s and D’s and my eldest son even came to me and said that he didn’t want to go back to school because the teachers don’t want to help him. TERRIBLE THINGS TO HEAR FROM YOUR OWN CHILD! It brought me to tears. I went into the school and complained to the principal… It was no good. It got worse. I was told about Connections Academy’s K-12 online school and I did my homework on it. I immediately latched onto the idea of online learning. I decided to tell a few friends about the school and to my surprise, I was immediately put down. “Why would you do that to them?, You are cutting them off socially!, They will never know how to thrive in today’s world if you do it!, What about their friendships?, How will they go on field trips?” This being said I would call MICA and have someone in the enrollment department speak with them and answer some of the questions and reply to the many statements that they made. They got really quiet afterward. Well after the school year was done I showed my friends the Progress Reports / Report Cards and had them compare them to the prior year. STRAIGHT A’s!!! Oh and this may seem a little childish of me but I walked myself 1 mile to the old school, walked into the office, and slammed both the MICA Progress Report / Report Card and the Report Card that THAT school gave my children on the principal’s desk and told her to compare the two. I then said MY CHILDREN ARE TEACHABLE!!! YOU AND YOUR STAFF JUST AREN’T DOING YOUR JOBS…..LET ALONE THE ENTIRE SCHOOL BOARD! Like I said… It may have been immature / childish of me but I felt good for doing it! Connections Academy was / is the best thing that could / can ever happen to anyone! I even recruited a few of the teachers who wants to enroll their own children into the program…..shhhhh 😀 !

  22. Ruth J. Stephens says:

    I would like for you to share how online schooling has helped you if you are a student who has learning difficulties. I experienced this with my younger son, who is an adult now.

  23. Me'chele says:

    Well written. I wish all people had an opportunity to read this. My children have only homeschooled/online schooled for three year. This and other myths are some of the things that held me back. I am not sure if most people realize socializing in school is actually punished not encouraged. Kids have the chance to socialize at lunch time and PE time. Many schools have cut PE to a minimum. Socializing at lunch can be iffy as well now days. My children are very social kids. Interpreted talkative. I received more phone calls from teacher that my children were too social rather than calls of my children’s academic progress. Now when my children socialize it is truly fun and they are not punished. Thank you for your blog post!

  24. shelton says:

    I really appreciate the comments that you made about home schooling because many people have negative things to say. I think it’s a wonderful school.


  25. Elizabeth Free says:

    Many people forget that Connections IS a public school! I love your points and am going to share this article with some of my fellow naysayers.

    I suspect my son will accelerate through school, speed into the area of study he really craves (deep sea marine biology) and be forerunner in his field.

    This is going to be in many ways because he will not be held back due to the millions of classroom delays that happen on a daily basis. He can learn at HIS pace.. not the pace of the slowest (or fastest) person in the class. He will also be liberated from the bullying that is so rampant, allowing him to focus in a safe environment– rather than be distracted by the middle school melodrama that interferes so much of the time.

    So little of the socialization I see in classrooms is productive, especially at that age. My son gets plenty of productive, supportive socialization at church, through our family friends, and through neighborhood recreation.

    I feel proud and confident of the decision I’ve made to enroll my son in virtual (online) education! All the message… none of the mess.

  26. Bonnie Toplenszky says:

    I have been thinking of home schooling for some time now, my daughter is in 2nd grade and just cant stay caught up. Everthing is so fast paced,how can any child learn correctly when its something different every 5 days then keep moving on even if you need more help. I do have 2 concerns though, how do I know she wont get lazy and not want to do her work and are the clubs etc really in my area or do I have to drive to a location 2 hours away? This may not sound important but with gas prices the way they are we cant all afford to travel like that

  27. Jenna K, says:

    This was a really helpful thing to read, but what I’ve read so far, it’s been the parents choice to put the kids in online school. 
    Im a freshman in… “Brick and mortar” school, but I’m the one trying to convince my parents to let me go into online schooling…

    Is that not supposed to happen?
  28. Kim W. says:

    Hi Bonnie,

    This is my son’s third year in Connections Academy and he’s in 3rd Grade. I am a former public school teacher and I had many of the same concerns as a parent who doesn’t have a teaching background and one of them was “what if my son gets lazy and doesn’t want to do his work?”. The great thing about the public school choice/option of Connections is that you don’t have to always be the heavy. My son has a teacher, there are guidance counselors and administration that are available and willing to talk with your student for whatever reason. It took about three months for us to get in a real routine without complaints but once we found the groove we haven’t looked back. As a matter of fact, my son heard the commercial for Connections on the radio the other day and asked if he was going to be able to attend all the way through 12th Grade. That made my heart smile knowing that he is truly happy with his education.

    As for clubs . . . my son is in a club and they meet online once a week. There’s a club leader (teacher) and the chat pod is open for the students to converse. The student’s also have the option to speak live during the club via a headphone with mic – just like an online conference or webcast. The leader/teacher is also the moderator and leads the group during their meeting. My son LOVES participating and is totally on his own for a full hour. 

    I would suggest you go to the Connections Academy home page (www.connectionsacademy.com) and read about the program. There are parents and school staff available to respond to questions you might have about the curriculum or any other questions.

  29. Lilly Bishop says:

    My mom finds this really funny and VERYYYYYY True! I’m Lilly by the way, I’m 12 going on 13 next month yeaaaa! This coming year I’m gonna be in 8th grade this will be my 2nd time in Connections. 

  30. gabrielle says:

    well said,people say i am weird but i am not

  31. Jami says:

     I don’t understand why people think socialization only happens “at school”?
    Do these peoples kids not have other kids in their neighborhood that they can get to know After school? If not, what about going to the park, boys & girls club, ymca, etc. All of which are swarming with kids After school. 🙂 just saying… 

  32. Tamie says:

    We are considering connections for my son. I made the mistake of bringing it up to extended family at a family gathering. I ended up getting a lecture about how my son will never be able to function as an adult in the real world, work on a team or learn to deal with people that are not nice if he is only in “controlled” situations. Apparently, it is much more positive to play by yourself at recess because no one lets you play because it is much more “real” life. I can’t wait to start WCA in the fall.

  33. Wilna W says:

    Thank you so much for this post.  I am currently considering weather or not to  enroll my son in an online high school next year because the traditional school setting isn’t the best fit for my son.

     Is this option actually possible for a single (solo) mother who works full time during the day?

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