7 Creative Ways to Motivate Virtual School Students

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  1. Kelly says:

    I wanted to reward my daughter for getting herself ready in the mornings and at night – she agreed to a 3 month period where then she would receive a toy. (She came up with the time frame – saying 12 weeks. I explained how long that was and
    she was fine with it.) When we posed the agreement to my husband he disagreed.
    He said she should do what she’s supposed to do without being rewarded and should just obey.What should I do? I’m tired of the struggle!!!

  2. Lisa Bailey says:

    In “real life situations” people are “rewarded” in many ways for simply doing what they are supposed to do. I feel that the positive behind rewarding verses the negative of punishments for not doing the “correct” behavior works in much more cases.

  3. Aimee says:

    That’s difficult to say.  It may be right for one child and not for another.  We choose not to motivate our children by buying them a toy, but we do choose other methods of motivation.  For instance, maybe a later bedtime if chores are done everyday for a week, or movie night on Friday if they completed all of their assignments throughout the week. 

    So, each child is different.  The question I have is…does your daughter generally have difficulty getting herself ready and that is why you needed the motivation?  Or is it just a bonus?

  4. Angela P. says:

    My husband and I went through this very same scenario with one of our sons(4th grade). It got to the point where we felt we were simply being used as toy dispensers. And as soon as the toys ran out his attitude went into the toilet. Bribery with physical items doesn’t work and makes for bratty kids AND overflowing rooms/closets! It gets ridiculous. And most of the time he’d rather be under my feet begging for attention than play with his new toy anyway. It was obviously time to re-evaluate what he needed versus what he wanted. It’s a good thing we did, too. Now we have a much more balanced approach and the entire household is happier.
    The best solution we have come up with to make sure that both preparation for and actual school time behavior guidelines are met is to reward in some way that is more meaningful for the child. We have a limit for X amount of “non-educational electronics time,” i.e. movies, videogames, Wii, etc. per day.
    If our child meets the goals of the day then they get their two hours of time after school. If they fail in one area they get one hour taken away. If they fail in both areas then both hours are taken away. This way it’s goal related but not outright bribery. We understand that kids need to vent and release energy with non-educational toys and games either alone or with friends so this keeps their temperment in check. They know what they want and to get it they have to behave appropriately. They can play with educational toys and electronic games as much as they wish. It’s the NON-educational stuff that is their goal.
    To balance this out we don’t only give this time during the school week. We also have a ticket system(get a big roll of these “admission tickets” at Walmart in the craft section.) so that when they go the extra mile or help around the house beyond what they’re normally asked to do then they get a 15 or 30 minute ticket redeemable for non-educational tech time. Depends on what they did and the time value of it. We don’t give tickets for everything we ask them to do, either. Most stuff is simply, “do it to help your family and your household.” Because, honestly- they need to learn how to take care of a household. Most kids today don’t even know how to wash their own clothes without their hands being held.
    Also, the staying-up-late thing works too. Just make sure that you and your spouse/partner get enough ALONE time, too!! There are nights when you’re ready to drop on your feet but you’ve got a kid trying to climb up your leg begging you to play a game with you. Moderation seems to work best.
    Aimee: “does your daughter generally have difficulty getting herself ready and that is why you needed the motivation? Or is it just a bonus? For instance, maybe a later bedtime if chores are done everyday for a week, or movie night on Friday if they completed all of their assignments throughout the week.”
    Great idea!! Fridays are a great time to reward with quality family time or staying up late. During the week, not so much. Kids need their sleep schedule to be consistent.
    A bonus that she can count on getting every day? That is simply pay for performance. Which ends up being bribery. Unfortunately, taking something away seems to work better most of the time. Most kids today already have far above and beyond what they need so to give more isn’t always helpful.
    Strangely enough, lessening the amount of time in the morning to get ready for the school day worked far better than bribery for us. Really taught them to watch the clock and to figure out precisely HOW they were wasting time. Originally they had 45 minutes. They’d fight and make stupid excuses and still not get their stuff done so I decreased it down to 40. Then 35. then 30. That was the magic key. If they have too much time to waste then they have more time to fight. At least that’s how it is with my ADHD boy, anyway.
    I’m starting them off again at 45 minutes for prep time this year to give them the chance to keep that time to really ‘wake up’ in the morning. We’ll go from there and see how it plays out. Every year is different. Every child is different.

  5. christina says:

    ok I have a 6th grade girl that is new to connections . she is having a problem ajesting to online. our girlscout troop has not started yet. We do have a reward system in place but most of her success is in Art or Lang .. she misses her friends at B&M . we need to plan regular sleep overs. thanks for the ideas

  6. Tracy Cowles says:

    Christina, sorry your child is having trouble adjusting, but its only been a few weeks – at that age, its to be expected.  You chose Cyber School, so you are capable of thinking outside of the box – carry that theme on for rewards and motivation.  She loves girl scouts?  Find a brownie troop and help her become a “Junior Assistant” – time with younger kids, increase in maturity/responsibility.  Loves language?  Pen pals, or writing poetry/short stories, which you help her submit to the Girl Scout magazine.  Loves arts?  Awesome.  So she’s not a mathematician at this point…..rewards include learning to draw books, introductory poetry books, etc. that she can earn for completing the math and science requirements.  Loves crafts?  Introduce her to latch-hook rugs/pillows that she can make for her own room and gifts to family, sewing, crocheting, etc…..life long skills that fill time. How about a “mommy’s helper” position….when I was ten, the lady upstairs needed time off from the baby.   My “job,” unpaid, was to play with, and keep the baby safe for one hour after school 3 days a week while the mom was still in the house doing laundry, returning phone calls, etc.  I LOVED it, felt so grown up, and it set me up for a 7 year baby-sitting career.  Anyone in the neighborhood, family or church that could benefit from this service?

    Sleep overs are great, but consider 10 minute phone calls, and meeting other girls, by invitation, at the mall, at the movies, at bowling…whatever the activity of the week is.  If you are going, invite someone along, and hope that they reciprocate.

    Hope this helps.

  7. Judy Pond says:

    I really liked the idea u shared with us.I am having 6 years old daughter but she is very lazy she cant do her work properly. I really appreciate your idea and also follow these step for sure.

    Question For you: I want to buy brain games for my daughter, but i couldn’t find the best one for her.

    One of my friend suggested me switched on kids.It looks goods to me. Please suggest me is this right for me?

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