The Monitor’s Advice Column
“I’m feeling lonely I talk to myself when no one is around and I don’t know what to do. Am I depressed? I used to be happy, but life just got me down. Can you help me?”
Answered by Courtney C. I know how you feel. I am the same way. When I get down I like to do stuff that makes me happy. For me it’s stuff like filming with my model horse toys, playing with my pets, and so on.
I have also found, for me at least, that it helps to write it down as well.
When you feel down you could also call a friend or text a friend and vent. Just say, ”Hey can we talk?” or ”Hey can I just vent to you for a minute?” Normally they are okay with it and will allow you to vent.
Also if you have depression and its really bad to the point where you want to harm yourself then tell a trusted adult family member or even a trusted friend. It does help, and trust me when I say it DOES get BETTER.
Also one last thing you can do is look on the bright side and think about the happier things in life.
“There’s been a question that I’ve wanted to ask my parents for a really long time, since the beginning of middle school, but I’ve been a bit afraid to ask. I’m kind of shy, so I need a very subtle way to tell them what I want without giving myself away. What can I do?!?!”
Answered by Bailey L. and Ashley B.
Hi! We have a couple ideas for you. You could write a letter to your parents, and either give it directly to them or leave it in a place where they can find the letter. Say “I’d like you to read this.” And be prepared to talk about it after.
Another way is to email or text your parents the question. This is similar to writing a letter, but it’s less formal. Depending on your parents this might seem a bit impersonal though.
Drop hints. “I have been needing to tell you something.”, “__________has been on my mind for a while.”, “___________has been bothering me.”
Tell them straight and in person. It might be a little hard but once you prick the balloon all the air starts flowing out. Meaning, if you start to ask the question, all the details pour out and you leave feeling relieved.
- Before you ask your parents, take a deep breath. If you try to relax a little, then it may be easier for you.
- Make sure they are in a good mood, or at least not stressed or upset.
- Remember that although you’ve probably been stressing over the question for a long time, this is new to your parents. So if you act “weird” about it, your parents will too.
- Also, try to keep the conversation somewhat lighthearted as to not stress you out further.
We know this is hard. It is going to be just as hard to make a decision, so we hoped this helped. Remember, keep calm and everything will go okay. Hang in there! We wish you the best of luck!